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Are The Unwanted Cycles In Your Life Caused by Childhood Mental Shackles? Inspiration Contemplation and a Meditation

Lessons I learned from a Zen Master

You know what I'm talking about. Your best friend keeps dating the same kind of loser. You brother keeps getting fired. A neighbor keeps getting DUIs. And some dude named Steve keeps making a quarter billion dollars every time he release some new product without any buttons.

What the heck keeps us in these cycles of success or failure? Steve Jobs went to India for a few years before starting Apple with Wozniak. I turned to Korean Daoism. This is what I learned about what keeps you in vortex cycles:

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The Tao of Tough Decisions - Making them Wisely (Lessons I Learned from a Taoist Master)

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"If you are faced with a choice between this or that, how many choices do you have?" the Master asked.

"If you are faced with a choice between this or that, how many choices do you have?" the Master asked.

I knew it was a trick question. Every question he asks is a trick question. Mahayana and Zen Buddhists would call them Zen Koans or Riddles.

"Three!" I guessed out of my ass.

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"Four." the Master said without appearing to have heard my answer at all.

"Four." the Master said without appearing to have heard my answer at all.

"If you are faced with the choice of a sports car or an economy car, thinking you only have those two options, you choose the sports car. Every time you drive the sports car, you will feel guilty."

The Master Continued, "If you had chosen the economy car, every time you drive it, you feel frustrated."

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I was dumbfounded. 

I was dumbfounded. 

"Buy both, this is your third choice," the Master said.

I was as puzzled as I was enlightened. I immediately realized that so many of my life decisions were destined to bring me guilt or frustration from the moment I made a choice. But before I could take the first step down memory lane, the Master hit me with another revelation.

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"If you are faced with the choice of a Susan or Sara, thinking those are your only options, you choose Susan. Every moment you stay with Susan, you miss Sara. Every discomfort Susan brings you, you resent Susan. You have already lost Susan and Sara from the moment you made your choice.

In this case, use your fourth option. Choose neither. When true love comes, you will have no choice."

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How You Can Be the Prettiest Girl in School

There are two ways to change how people experience a subjective, well, experience. You can change what they are looking at or you can change how they see it... THIS is what I mean:

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Urban Survival Guide - Taoist Wisdom by Lao Tzu

The happy traveler has no itinerary. He is not determined to arrive.

A King loved will lead in such a way that his subjects will succeed then say, "we did it ourselves."

A warrior who loves the path of comfort will seek the path of least risk and desert the path of greatest reward.

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A difficult path is one where the walker sees the many easy steps at once. A painful path is one where the walker carries with him the dirt from each of his previous steps.

Ambition is both heels rooted firmly while the fingers stretch like bamboo into the heavens.

An ant is worth more than a sleeping ox.*

Be happy with what you already have. If you seek something else, it too will be willing to become yours.

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*In other words, do not be impressed by a man's potential. Look at his acts.

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How to Destroy the Five Jerks at Work - The Tao of Business 3/3

3/3 Continued from: http://journik.posterous.com/how-to-control-that-emotional-jerk-at-work-10

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"Qi, or chi" is the internal nature of what makes everything what it is. The qi of a joke can create laughter just as the qi of a sour candy can make children laugh. Both create fire qi which is felt as joy.

The Master stood up as if to lead me somewhere else. I stood to follow. He stopped me - saying, "wait here for me. I'll be right back." We were in his dojo - a large industrial warehouse. Later, I came to find that it was the training facility of deadly swordsmen. They can disarm a gunman with a cocked hammer from 25 feet away before a gun can fire. This is done by flying - not running. I only discovered this because I witnessed two days of training before the Master returned. The dojo was cold at night.

"Have you ever tried to sober up a drunken friend while he is driving?" The master asked. I thought maybe he was missing for two days because he got a DUI. The master continued as if he had only been gone for a minute.

"Your drunken friend will play his music loudly, yell along with it, weave all over the road, and endanger all who come near him. He is intoxicated with joy because his liver qi created fire qi. If you become angry at him, he will only drive more recklessly to challenge you. If you laugh at him, he will feel you support his intoxication. If you lovingly ask him to sober up, he will be emboldened to drive more dangerously. And if you sadly complain that he is endangering your life, he will mockingly drive even more recklessly."

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The qi of wood is also within the color green, the liver, the muscles, and more. Wood element qi can be extracted from any of these interchangably.

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It was then that realized that the Master was teaching me the destructive cycle of the 5 elements.

"The only element that can destroy the fire element is water. Joy is within fire as fear is within water. Use fear qi. Simply ask him, 'Friend, is that a police car behind you?'"

The master continued, "Women are funny creatures. They intuitively know so much more than men but have the hardest time articulating their understanding. When a woman wants to stop a man from loving her, she does not try to make him happy. She does not sadly ask him to keep his distance. She does not fearfully tell him about her discomfort. This would just make the man want to love her more and protect her. No, she dates his best friend. In America, you even have the right color for it. You say, "green with envy." But it is not envy. It is anger. The only time lovers CONTINUED in http://journic.com Blog.

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5 Elements: The 5 Emotional Saboteurs That Will Destroy Your Company (Lessons I Learned from a Kung Fu Master)

I was the kid who made all the other kids laugh in the 5th grade. It was mostly about something Mrs. Grantham said or did. I loved putting her on the spot. I loved getting all the attention from all the other kids. I loved feeling special. I was a jerk.

Mrs. Grantham didn't seem to mind for quite a while. She even laughed along with the rest of the class. Funny thing, This made me want to try harder to get a reaction from her. Yep. I was a real jerk.

But I was a successful jerk. One day, the little ten year old version of me went a little too far. Mrs. Grantham said something that left her wide open for one of my attacks. I charged in. The whole class laughed and the hallway echoed. Mrs. Grantham did not. With one sigh, she broke me by saying, "There's always one in every class."

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I didn't know why but from that moment on, my class-clown was emasculated. I'd never try to userp the attention of my class again.

In retrospect, I can see Mrs. Grantham's genius. I wanted all the attention because it made me feel special. At home, I was largely ignored by my double shift working immigrant Korean parents. So it's understandable that a ten year old would want to fill that gap. But Mrs. Grantham was not about to let me satisfy my emotional vacancies at the expense of 32 other kids in class.

She broke me of my emotional vampirism. By saying what she said, she made one little boy realize that every class in the world had a duplicate clone of me. She made me realize that no matter how funny I became, no matter how much attention I could steal away, I was just falling into a preset mold. Making a class laugh no longer made me feel "special."

In the ecosystem of emotions, 1. anger creates joy; 2. joy creates love; 3. love creates sadness; 4. sadness creates fear; 5. fear creates anger.

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The Five Emotional Saboteurs Who Will Destroy Your Company

By the time I was in my early 23 working in San Francisco's Pre Bust Dot Com, I became pretty good at managing people. We worked 18 hour days, had an inhouse chef, shower, massage and laundry service. It was like being in prison for launching a multi-billion dollar ponzi scheme - some idiot has to try to establish his prison rep. Some idiot has to make his mark by bending you over and you get the rest.

That guy would be the angry guy. He imposes on you, shit-talks your most promising ideas, and interrupts you in the conference room. He breaks up team spirit like roots to a sidewalk. But he's not the only emotional idiot who destroys productivity.

There's the overly happy guy. Harvard B School admonishes, "Do not celebrate too soon." But Mr. Premature Champagnepopjaculator never went to B School. He celebrates before the check clears the bank. He lulls everyone into a false sense of security. This is how I lost most of my money during the Dot Bomb.

In the ecosystem of vision, staring at 1. green makes everything look red; 2. staring at red makes everything yellow; 3. staring at yellow turns everything white; 4. staring at a bright white sun makes everything black; 5. staring in a black room reveals green stars

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Then there's Mr. Love-a-Lot. He falls in love with a concept so deeply, he ignores overlooks the marketability, the profitability, the scalability, and even the doability of it. He insists that this project will change the world. He insists that women around the world should be able to shop from home without endangering the lives of their children by driving on dangerous roads to a supermarket with even more dangerous plastic bags children can suffocate from and shopping carts they can fall out of. I believed him. As a 24 year old, it never occurred to me that women like to shop. And they like to touch the produce before they buy it. This is how I lost most of the rest of my money working on eGrocer.com.

Just as destructive as Mr. Shit-Talking Back Stabbing Angry Guy, Mr. Premature Champagnepopperjaculator, and Mr. Blindly Love-a-Lot, is our next-to-last emotional saboteur, Mr. Downer. Mr. Downer always has to sit closest to the water cooler. No matter how charged up and caffeinated you are, one innocent jaunt to the water cooler drains all of your energy . His cubicle is an emotional vortex. That swivel lamp of his looks alarmingly like a hungry blood sucking leech. Sure, after the Dot Bomb, all my team mates lost everything. I lost my apartment. I lost my cars - both of them. I even lost my girlfriends - both of them. This cold metalic depression cuts all chances of reinventing yourself. If you overcome situational depression, you can build a multi-million dollar business out of the dirt. Zappos did. They overcame depression and sold to Amazon at the peak of the new recession.

Last on the list of the five emotional saboteurs is Mr. Fear Monger. B School drills into you the importance of "burning your boats." This is to create the kind of fear that happens when Vikings face an opponent five times their size then realize (by observing their burning escape boats) that the only way off of the island is to fight your way to victory. This fear creates passionate martial anger. Mr. Fear does the opposite. He is the one who brings up all the what-ifs but not in a way that makes your game plan tighter. He lists off a litany of reasons you shouldn't follow your dreams. Mr. Fear Monger's fear is not the constructive, exhilirating, "bet the company" kind of healthy fear. His will make the company's funding evaporate if the emotional toxins waft up to the VCs.

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I had already amassed enough priceless 20/20 hindsight to make me a billionaire but I was broke. After several failed dot coms, destroyed credit, and being pulled out of my dream European retirement from being penniless (I retired to Europe for several years with what little money I could pull out of my shares before it all crashed. I left Europe from Valencia, Spain after spending a week eating only oranges because I was too proud to beg), I decided to start another dot com. But this time, I was determined to neutralize emotional saboteurs. I was going to build one more dot com but this time, I was going to be 100% armed and ready.

This is when I met a Kung-Fu Master.

Continued: How To Control That Emotional Jerk at Work (10 lessons I learned from a Kung Fu Master and 5th Grade Teacher - The Dao of the Five Elements | Reference: Dangerous Errors In the Acupuncture and Moxabustion Textbook: 5 Elements

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Serendipity. How Your Life Can Flourish In Just One Moment. An Interview With @GlobalPatriot #Passion #Purpose #Inspiration #Dao

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while you say you are "local to San Diego..." Calling you a "man about town" would require defining TOWN as everything between Sweden and South America!!!
4:20 PM @journik: GP!???
 markllovett: I'm here
 @journik: GREAT!
4:21 PM My Chat with @jorgeavilam was reallly inspiring... for a Mexican National to start a successful business in America...HE REALLY APPRECIATES THE USA!
 markllovett: What's his business?
4:22 PM @journik: He is a fast growing business data / computer consulting firm
 markllovett: Excellent, is he in the LA area?
4:23 PM @journik: he does several cities... including LA... he was just in LA a week or so ago...
  Do you have operations in LA too?????
 markllovett: I'm local to San Diego, but travel to LA from time to time for meetings.
4:24 PM @journik: Ahhh.. well... please do contact him and support him! He seems highly ethical and committed to excellence
  He's at @jorgeavilam
4:25 PM He DOES know his stuff when it comes to Networks, databases, enterprise solutions

 

 markllovett: I started following @jorgeavilam today.
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I wrote some blog posts about Doctors Without Borders, then connected with Danny Brown and his 12for12k.org campaign. We put our heads together and...

 @journik: Excellent! ... and ... WELCOME to the @Journik SHOW!!!
4:26 PM markllovett: I'm honored to be on the @Journik show!
 @journik: I know that while you say you are "local to San Diego..." Calling you a "man about town" would require defining TOWN as everything between Sweden and South America!!!
4:27 PM I'd love to expose what you do the my readers...
  So why all the traveling??!?!
4:28 PM markllovett: I wrote some blog posts about Doctors Without Borders, then connected with Danny Brown and his 12for12k.org campaign. We put our heads together and decided to raise funds for DWB.
4:29 PM I started with the idea of putting on one event in San Diego, but ended up hosting three music events - San Diego, Stockholm and London.
 @journik: Hah! WOW! and of all the NPO and causes out there... why Doctors Without Borders for You Personally???
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of all the NPO and causes out there... why Doctors Without Borders for You Personally???
4:30 PM What about it called out to you?
4:31 PM markllovett: They have a program called Refugee Camp In The Heart Of The City, and they brought it to San Diego. It's a mock up of what it's like to live in a refugee camp - it really opened my eyes to what is happening in the world - people who are displaced due to violence.
4:32 PM @journik: WOW!
  wow...
  well... THAT makes me even more curious...
  before we go into details... what made you want to attend that "Refuge Camp" program???
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Can't say why it struck me so strongly, but I knew in that moment that I had to go
4:34 PM markllovett: I was driving down the road and there was a news mention of it on the radio. Can't say why it struck me so strongly, but I knew in that moment that I had to go see it.
 @journik: ahhh....
4:35 PM a few days ago...I was interviewing @zenmommy and @riasharon .. they couldnt stop talking about serendipity...
4:36 PM and just being open to opportunity ... So... can you fill us in on the history of the @GlobalPatriot activities... the victories... the trials...
Life is 99% serendipity, or fate, or karma, or whatever
4:37 PM markllovett: Life is 99% serendipity, or fate, or karma, or whatever you want to call it, but the more you tune into it, the more it happens. Some days it's like a tidal wave of perfection.
 @journik: HAHAHAAAAA
  (i know... that last line was unprofessional o_O )
  Tidal Wave of Perfection!!!
4:38 PM markllovett: Global Patriot was born out of a book I wrote years ago in which the hero had to choose between country and planet. I knew that at some point I would devote time to exploring the idea that we should be devoted to the health and well-being of the entire planet.
4:39 PM @journik: WOW! fascinating concept!
4:40 PM It IS much easier to make your nearby neighbors FRIENDS and leave the rest further away as they willl....
  BUT
  Being an asset to EVERYBODY!!!... wow.
4:41 PM markllovett: Once upon a time, we could sit in our own space and not effect the world. That's no longer the case. It's become so evident that we're all connected, and everything we do affects others on the planet.
 @journik: True. Times Ten....
So in the interests of giving our readers some inspiration... strategy... how DO you get soooooo many people to back your vision and support the GlobalPatriot events...
4:42 PM I know many people who want to start their own cause... help... contribute... or even just start a business so they don't have to sit under florescent lights and get yelled at... In either case... they need to bring people... or customers into their sphere... how do YOU do that?
4:43 PM Last GP (@globalpatriot) event I was at... everyone had to be forcibly ejected because we were having such a good time getting to know each other...
4:44 PM markllovett: When I say "Global Patriot", they ask what it means, and when I answer, "Patriotism Without Borders" they are on board in an instant - they understand the message - they get it, and it resonates with them. So if you want to attract people to your cause, or mission or business, give them a compelling reason to join your team.
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 @journik: Ah...
4:45 PM Then what is the scope of the Global Patriot mission???
  What if
4:46 PM one of our readers are more interested in one cause vs another... how much does the GP umbrella cover..
  ?
4:48 PM markllovett: From my Twitter profile, "Supporting the idea of Patriotism Without Borders. Social Justice, Sustainability, Global Consciousness and Ending Poverty and Hunger." Which is a lot of territory to cover, but it's all connected. So if you want to focus on just one topic, do so with the understanding that solutions are complex and need to take many factors into account.
4:49 PM @journik: I noticed in your blog... http://globalpatriot.com/ ... you deal with food issues: Michael Pollan... World Wilderness Congress (WWC) ...
  and THAT is what I personally feel passionately about... a holistic solution to what appears to be isolated issues...
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Holistic is the key word - if they are burning down rain forest so that they can produce beef that goes into fast food and causes us health problems
4:50 PM markllovett: Holistic is the key word - if they are burning down rain forest so that they can produce beef that goes into fast food and causes us health problems - you can end up with situations that are negative in multiple respects.
4:51 PM @journik: Ok then... you obviously... to everyone who's even met you briefly... live a broad scope life... from your fine wine collection... to your world traveling Charitable efforts... while maybe not everyone's dream life...
  What can you tell our readers about how to pursue and LIVE their own version of that "dream life???"
4:54 PM markllovett: I don't think of it in terms of a dream life, but rather pursuing passion. Seek that which speaks to you, drives you, "Follow Your Bliss", though at times it's hard, confusing, frustrating, there is a reason for everything and even the pain is part of the journey.
4:55 PM @journik: Ahhh... instead of being pulled by some external vision: "dream life"... pursue your core internal passion...
4:56 PM I like the message GP!
4:57 PM markllovett: Exactly, your internal voice knows more than you give it credit for.
I don't think of it in terms of a dream life, but rather pursuing passion. Seek that which speaks to you, drives you,
 @journik: So.. "how can we help you???" I know ... just meeting you the first time.. I walked away with a great deal of insight... (that first sentence here... I learned from GP... Mark Lovett)
  What can our readers do that benefits themselves, the global community.. and the Global Patriot Mission?
5:00 PM markllovett: The one thing I ask of everyone is to embrace the planet...we're all in this together, dealing with hunger, poverty and climate change...and the solutions will require participation of everyone. If you want to read my blog, or follow me on Twitter, that's very cool, but the real answer lies in the decisions we make on a daily basis.
 @journik: Indeed. Indeed.
5:01 PM I personally get a key perspective into the issue around the world when I read your blog... http://globalpatriot.com/
  Well... GP... In Korean... I'd close by saying... "tuhk won im ni dah!" "It has been an honor."
5:02 PM Would you be willing to reopen another interview when you launch your next event???
5:03 PM markllovett: Likewise, as you are focused on expanding everyone's consciousness, and that is the starting point to greatness!
  And I'm open to an interview at any time...many things brewing for 2010!
5:04 PM @journik: Excited! Thank You very much for joining us on the @journik show! ... everyone.. you can get to know Mr. Mark Lovett (man about town - in a big way) at http://twitter.com/GlobalPatriot !!!
  Thanks GP! see you on twitter!
5:05 PM markllovett: It was my pleasure!
 @journik: OH.. ps... pictures please???
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About @journik: @Journik is Bob Wan-Qi Kim. He has been an internet entrepreneur since his first BBS on the "Information," "Super," "Highway." He founded http://journik.com -- a community like facebook but only for philosophers and their bull-shit.

If you want to read my blog, or follow me on Twitter, that's very cool, but the real answer lies in the decisions we make on a daily basis.

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Evening with a glass of wine: Philosophy - "The Universe is inside-out and so are your problems..."

Please see http://journik.posterous.com/sunday-siesta-philosophy-the-universe-is-insi Part One.

The universe is inverted and so are your problems - Ancient Master #2 from Wan Qi on Vimeo.

For part 3, You must be a registered member of the Journik.com Community. We share all the tastiest brilliance there.

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Sunday Siesta Philosophy: "The Universe is inside-out, and so are Your problems..." 30min video

The universe is inverted and so are your problems - From: "The Ancient Master of the Obvious -- An Alchemist's Book of Secrets"

Part Two: The Universe is inside-out and so are your problems. Taken with a glass of wine.

Civil Engineers add lanes to freeways making them even slower.

Washing machines were invented to save women time and now women spend 300% more time doing laundry.

Vaccines made all diseases disappear until they reappeared as super strains.

Electric cars reduced air polution to create sea polution from battery mercury.

The "War to End All Wars" Just created more and deadlier wars.

You try and save your marriage and your mate cheats on you.

You try and get a promotion and you get fired.

You try to get to your meeting early and you end up late.

Why?

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How you look at failure determines if you will ever see success - The Dao

If you count even one failure, you count the grains of sand while you seek your pearl

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