Honestly, I was surprised by the response I got from this mentorship post. I got many retweets from professionals on Twitter who have functional healthy jobs and careers. Wouldn't have guessed that this would be on the minds of so many people: How to Let Go
An amazingly successful and beautiful woman in NYC with a PhD asked me a shocking question. She said that her life was in a constant cycle of ruins and destruction because of her trying to please her parents. She said that her resentment toward her mom and dad drove her to make decisions that hurt her to hurt them.
If someone as brilliant and successful as she is wanted to break the cycle of resenting her parents and hurting yourself to hurt mom and dad, I asked, "How many people would like to hear about releasing their resentment (even subconscious) toward mom and dad? How many of your life changing decisions and patterns are rooted in your anger at your parents instead of your heart's true desires?"
Personally, I released a tear or two as I was recording this. It made me appreciate and love my parents so much more just talking about it.
So if you want to see how powerfully your success, happiness, and life gets flung forward as if cradled in a sling shot, take a moment. Just think about clicking on this link: http://rawksoup.com/anger.html
There's always some chump who specializes in dumping his insecurities, anger, fear, and corrupted self-image onto your lap. As soon as he walks into the building, his presumptuousness, ego, and arrogance wafts through the halls like three week old toxic sushi remains. It's not fun.
But really, it's not him that makes you hate getting up in the morning. It's not not him that makes you hesitate that one extra moment before you swipe your FOB key card. What makes your life miserable is the fact that after some conditioning, you start second guessing yourself. You start wondering what YOU did to "attract" him into your life. You start wondering if you really resemble some of his hurled accusations.
You may even start resenting yourself for not ever standing up to the jerk!
It's like when Elaine told Seinfeld that she wanted to date "Mr. Worst Breaker Upper." She just had to see what all the women were so distraught about after they stopped dating this guy. After a while, Elaine dumps him saying he had no features that would crush a woman's heart. He was unattractive, not witty, not even kind. As he walks out, under his breath, he mutters, "So long, 'forehead!'"
At first, Elaine brushed off the remark.
Then, over the balance of the show, she ends up desperately seeking reassurance from every friend and every mirror that her forehead wasn't gargantuan.
So how do you break this cycle? How do you break jerks and idiots?
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